Natalie here! Checking in with you on your New Year’s resolutions. We’re about two months into the year, and it’s infamously the time of year that resolutions start to become forgotten about pipe dreams that get swept under the rug. Sound familiar?
Maybe you planned on changing your diet and giving up sugar but when stress at work became too high, you caved and ate a candy bar, opening the flood gates to unlimited amounts of sugary treats.
Or, maybe you planned on getting to the gym more often this year but as the New Years energy slowed down you found it harder and harder to stick to your plan.
Or maybe you’re doing just fine, and in that case, awesome job! Keep going!
But if you’re like most of us, you started the year with good intentions and slowly but surely you’re finding it harder and harder to stick with you’re new healthy habits. As a Lifestyle Coach, I see this a lot, and I myself struggled with this for a long time! But the good news is, once you understand what’s holding you back, it’s a lot easier to change it.
If you’re having a hard time sticking to your goals and actually following through with your resolutions a few things could be happening.
#1: YOU’VE MADE IT ABOUT SELF CONTROL
Believe it or not, self-control is not the answer when trying to habituate new healthy patterns. In fact it could be the thing that’s totally holding you back from actually accomplishing your goals. Why, you ask? Because as soon as you’ve made it about self-control, you’ve already lost the battle. Making anything about self-control makes it a thing that you have to “do”, it makes it something that’s outside of you, as opposed to being a part of who you are. Also the phrase self-control says it all. The more you try to control yourself, the more you’re going to want to rebel and do the thing you’re telling yourself not to do. Make sense? The rebel in you is like, “Oh no she didn’t tell me I can’t eat cheese, whatever I’m going to eat it!”. Self control is not the answer. Instead, remind yourself that you could choose to eat the cheese, but you truly don’t want to. Reframing the way you view self-control can make a big difference in how you make choices.
#2: YOU’VE SET AMBIGUOUS GOALS
Having ambiguous goals makes it really hard for you to understand your progress and measure your success. If your New Years resolutions was to eat better and lose weight, that’s an ambiguous goal. That ambiguity creates a confusion or fog like effect in your mind, so you can rationalize your way out of anything and find ways around your goals since there are no clear guidelines. What does eating better specifically look like to you? Does it mean eating kale five times a week? Does it mean cutting out all processed and refined sugars? Does it mean eating salad five days a week? Is it all of the above. Getting really clear on what it is that you are trying to accomplish will make accomplishing it that much easier.
#3: YOU’RE DISCONNECTED FROM YOUR ‘WHY’
Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to exercise more? Why do you want to have brighter skin? Do you know the reason? Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the goal itself that we get disconnected from the reason we set it in the first place. Once you ask yourself “why” ask yourself “why” again. Always go deeper than you think you need to. For instance if you want to lose weight and your why is because you want to look good in your clothes, ask yourself why you want that? What will looking good in your clothes afford your. How will it impact your life? The deeper you can get the more connected you will become to your goals making it much easier to stick to them even when things get tough. When you’re faced with your favorite cake you’ll be able to say no with resolve because you’re connected to your why.
If you’re experiencing one, two, or all three of these take this opportunity to reevaluate your resolutions or goals so that you can get yourself back on track. You are absolutely capable of following through on your New Years resolutions! It’s just a matter of how you approach them. You’ve got this!