Posts

3 REASONS WHY YOU ARE FAILING YOUR RESOLUTIONS

Jo_Malone_Athen_Calderone_Andrea-3-728x1090Natalie here! Checking in with you on your New Year’s resolutions. We’re about two months into the year, and it’s infamously the time of year that resolutions start to become forgotten about pipe dreams that get swept under the rug. Sound familiar? 

Maybe you planned on changing your diet and giving up sugar but when stress at work became too high, you caved and ate a candy bar, opening the flood gates to unlimited amounts of sugary treats. 

Or, maybe you planned on getting to the gym more often this year but as the New Years energy slowed down you found it harder and harder to stick to your plan. 

Or maybe you’re doing just fine, and in that case, awesome job! Keep going!

But if you’re like most of us, you started the year with good intentions and slowly but surely you’re finding it harder and harder to stick with you’re new healthy habits. As a Lifestyle Coach, I see this a lot, and I myself struggled with this for a long time! But the good news is, once you understand what’s holding you back, it’s a lot easier to change it. 

If you’re having a hard time sticking to your goals and actually following through with your resolutions a few things could be happening.

#1: YOU’VE MADE IT ABOUT SELF CONTROL

Believe it or not, self-control is not the answer when trying to habituate new healthy patterns. In fact it could be the thing that’s totally holding you back from actually accomplishing your goals. Why, you ask? Because as soon as you’ve made it about self-control, you’ve already lost the battle. Making anything about self-control makes it a thing that you have to “do”, it makes it something that’s outside of you, as opposed to being a part of who you are. Also the phrase self-control says it all. The more you try to control yourself, the more you’re going to want to rebel and do the thing you’re telling yourself not to do. Make sense? The rebel in you is like, “Oh no she didn’t tell me I can’t eat cheese, whatever I’m going to eat it!”. Self control is not the answer. Instead, remind yourself that you could choose to eat the cheese, but you truly don’t want to. Reframing the way you view self-control can make a big difference in how you make choices.

#2: YOU’VE SET AMBIGUOUS GOALS

Having ambiguous goals makes it really hard for you to understand your progress and measure your success. If your New Years resolutions was to eat better and lose weight, that’s an ambiguous goal. That ambiguity creates a confusion or fog like effect in your mind, so you can rationalize your way out of anything and find ways around your goals since there are no clear guidelines. What does eating better specifically look like to you? Does it mean eating kale five times a week? Does it mean cutting out all processed and refined sugars? Does it mean eating salad five days a week? Is it all of the above. Getting really clear on what it is that you are trying to accomplish will make accomplishing it that much easier. 

#3: YOU’RE DISCONNECTED FROM YOUR ‘WHY’

Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to exercise more? Why do you want to have brighter skin? Do you know the reason? Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the goal itself that we get disconnected from the reason we set it in the first place. Once you ask yourself “why” ask yourself “why” again. Always go deeper than you think you need to. For instance if you want to lose weight and your why is because you want to look good in your clothes, ask yourself why you want that? What will looking good in your clothes afford your. How will it impact your life? The deeper you can get the more connected you will become to your goals making it much easier to stick to them even when things get tough. When you’re faced with your favorite cake you’ll be able to say no with resolve because you’re connected to your why.

If you’re experiencing one, two, or all three of these take this opportunity to reevaluate your resolutions or goals so that you can get yourself back on track. You are absolutely capable of following through on your New Years resolutions! It’s just a matter of how you approach them. You’ve got this!


natalie button

3 SIMPLE WAYS TO BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

25_11_Tommy-Ton-Spring-2015-RTWConfidence is a tricky thing. We envy those who have it, but can feel bad when we have it ourselves. Today, Health & Wellness guru Natalie is showing us 3 simple ways to boost our confidence levels & how we can have the power to change our experiences. It’s a great reminder to go out & be your bombshell self! xoxo, LK


Hello, friends! Natalie here 🙂 Some days you wake up feeling on top of the world, other days…not so much. 

Confidence is a funny thing because it seems to come and go in waves. It’s something that we cultivate within ourselves but somehow it seems to vanish when we need it most. Luckily there are things we can do to help boost our confidence.

PUT ON YOUR FAVORITE OUTFIT

When we’re feeling down, the tendency is to reflect that in the way we present ourselves. Sometimes just putting on an awesome outfit can make all of the difference. This is something that has helped me time and time again. Even though I feel resistant to throwing on a cute dress when I’m feeling “bleh” about myself, I usually push myself to do it and experience a major shift if the way I see myself. Never underestimate the power of a good outfit! 

TAKE EXTRA CARE OF YOURSELF

The tendency when we’re not feeling confident (especially about our bodies) is to treat ourselves poorly. We don’t feel motivated to eat food that nourishes us and sometimes we choose not to eat at all. We might skimp on our exercise routine or morning meditation because it feels like, “What’s the point?” But the fact is, that’s the most important time for you to take care of yourself! It’s easier to practice self-care when your feeling good, but when you’re feeling down it’s absolutely essential.

DO SOMETHING KIND FOR SOMEONE ELSE

Kindness creates confidence. When you do something kind for another person you will immediately feel a sense of confidence, because you’ve done something good. Whether it be brining flowers to your best friend at work, or just picking up something a stranger drops on the street, and small gesture of kindness is a step in the right direction. Turning your attention to being of service to others will help you stop thinking about what’s “wrong” with you and get you focused on something positive.

Next time you’re feeling less than stellar about yourself, try these three tips out! Remember, you always have the power to change your experience.


natalie button

photo by Tommy Ton

WHY YOU DON’T NEED TO CONTOUR

IMG_6700Open up your Pinterest account and you’re sure to find one thing every time: Contouring Tutorials. The art of defining your cheekbones, giving your nose a thinner appearance, and basically trying to look like Kim Kardashian seems to be all the rage. Given the right circumstances, I think contouring is a really cool way to apply your makeup. There are certainly a lot of benefits, but there are also a lot of reasons why I don’t do it myself. Today, I want to share 3 reasons why you really don’t need to be contouring your face.

IMG_6707

1. IT’S UNREALISTIC

When we think of celebrities like Kim Kardashian, who is a master of contouring, we of course try to think of all the ways we can replicate her same look. The difference between Mrs. West and us is that she is constantly in front of the camera, and well, we are not. For someone who is being photographed every day and in optimal lighting, it makes sense to contour. For a gal like me who works most days in office lighting or outdoors, all you will see when you look at my face is the caked on makeup. When I meet a new person, the last thing I want them to notice is how much makeup I’m wearing.

Another thing to consider is the time it takes to apply everything. When I take the time to contour, get everything on my face, blend it in, and still put my mascara on, I’m already about 20 minutes into my makeup routine. Most of us are busy and on the go – dedicating so much time to having sharper cheekbones just isn’t going to fly.

The truth is, contouring is not realistic for every day wear. Save those tips and tricks for actual photos, or in the evening when you’ll be in dim or flattering lighting.

IMG_6710

2. SKIN HEALTH

Contouring requires using a lot of makeup, and when I say a lot, I mean A LOT. On top of the contouring products, you are usually adding a top layer of setting powder, bronzer and blush. That’s a lot of makeup sitting on your skin for extended periods of time. Putting that much on your face everyday is not only preventing your skin from being able to breathe, it’s also clogging your pores. If you’re looking for a bit of facial definition without the layers upon layers of makeup, opt for a tinted moisturize and a dusting of bronzer and blush.

IMG_67093. YOU DON’T LOOK LIKE YOU

Perhaps the biggest reason to not contour is because once you do it, you don’t really look like yourself. Last week, I saw a master contour makeup artist take over a large beauty retailer’s Instagram account for a day. She showed several “how to contour” photos and videos. What was interesting about the takeover is in the majority of the comments readers mentioned one of two things: One – they thought she looked prettier without the contouring. Two – once the contouring was done she looked like a completely different person.

I am definitely a supporter of drawing attention to your more flattering features, but I am not a fan of changing your appearance all together. Heavy contouring gives you the nose you weren’t born with and the jawline you wish you had. To me, it’s a way of hiding behind makeup instead of embracing who you truly are.

As women, there’s already enough pressure on us to be perfect housekeepers, successful in our lines of work, and just have all our ducks in a row. The last thing we need is to change our appearances to fit the mold of what society says is beautiful. We are each unique and absolutely gorgeous in our own ways – and we don’t need heavy contouring to prove it. Makeup is such a wonderful tool we can use to play up our best features and have fun with, but it shouldn’t be at the cost of sacrificing who you really are. Keep in mind that less really is more. Beauty isn’t defined by makeup tutorials and hair how-to’s. It is found in the confident woman who holds her head up high and says, “this is me, take me as I am.”

IMG_6697


breann bowman