THE POWER OF SAYING ‘NO’

tumblr_myuogwbYQe1qjb0fho1_1280Hello friends! Natalie here and today I’m sharing something that will potentially save you from burning out in the new year. Learning to art of saying ‘no’ to the things that aren’t right for you is so important to your overall well-being, but it’s not the easiest thing in the world for most of us.

I want to point out something VERY IMPORTANT that a lot of people don’t realize: Every ‘no’ is a ‘yes’ to something else. For instance, if you say ‘no’ to a relationship that isn’t healthy for you, you’re actually saying ‘yes’ to the possibility of the right relationship entering your life. 

‘No’ gets such a bad wrap because it’s often perceived as negative or shutting down  possibilities. But when used correctly, saying ‘no’ can be as powerful and uplifting as saying ‘yes’.

With the holiday season behind us, new years resolutions are starting to enter our mind. This is the time of year where we can start anew and get off on the right foot. It’s important not to overextend ourselves so we don’t end up running on empty.

Two big reasons we end up saying ‘yes’ when we really mean ‘no’ are:

  1. The desire to be liked/nice
  2. Fear of missing out on opportunities

YOU WANT TO BE WELL LIKED:

For the most part, we all want to be liked, it’s a normal human desire. But here’s a question: Who’s more likable than a person who actually wants to be where they are? You might find yourself saying ‘yes’ to plans and party invites or even work commitments because you want the people involved to like you for showing up; but are you really all that likable when you’re not happy with your choices? Probably not. Being real and knowing when to say ‘no’ allows you the opportunity to be the best version of yourself. Then people can actually trust your ‘yes’, knowing that you are totally happy with the commitments you’ve agreed to. 

YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS OUT!:

There’s a lot of talk about saying ‘yes’ to life… and that’s great! You do want to say ‘yes’ to life, and be open to possibilities, but don’t forget the very important thing I mentioned at the beginning of this post: Every ‘no’ is a ‘yes’ to something else. Just because you  utter the word ‘no’ doesn’t mean you’re rejecting life, in fact it could mean that you are embracing it so wholly that you are allowing yourself the full experience, as opposed to one where you are terrified of doing what you actually want to do. So go ahead, say ‘no’ to the next thing that doesn’t feel right for you and remember you’re actually saying ‘yes’ to what you really want. When you think of it that way, there are no opportunities to be lost

There you have it. Saying ‘no’ when that’s what feels right will actually make you more pleasant to be around, and it will also open up new doors to the things you actually want to experience in your life. Remember the power of ‘no’ and you’ll prevent yourself from totally burning out.